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Attachment Insight Assessment

The Attachment Style Questionnaire – Short Form (ASQ-SF) measures attachment style across five subscales and two composite dimensions: Avoidant and Anxious Attachment.

About this assessment

What it measures

This is the Attachment Style Questionnaire – Short Form (ASQ-SF), a 29-item measure of adult attachment — the characteristic ways you relate to closeness, dependence, and reassurance in significant relationships. It scores five subscales: Confidence in Interpersonal Interactions (the secure dimension), Discomfort with Closeness and Relationships as Secondary (which combine into the Avoidant dimension), and Need for Approval and Preoccupation with Relationships (which combine into the Anxious dimension).

Why it helps

Attachment patterns are learned strategies, not character flaws — they were once intelligent adaptations to the relationships you grew up in. Knowing where you sit on the avoidant and anxious dimensions helps explain recurring relationship dynamics (pursuing, distancing, protest behavior, difficulty asking for support) and points to what “earned security” work could look like for you.

How to answer

Think about your closest relationships — partners, close friends, family — rather than acquaintances. Answer for your typical pattern, not your best day or your worst.

Please rate each statement based on how much you agree or disagree. There are no right or wrong answers.
Question 1 of 29
I feel confident that other people will be there for me when I need them
Question 2 of 29
I prefer to depend on myself rather than other people
Question 3 of 29
I prefer to keep to myself
Question 4 of 29
Achieving things is more important than building relationships
Question 5 of 29
Doing your best is more important than getting on with others
Question 6 of 29
If you've got a job to do, you should do it no matter who gets hurt
Question 7 of 29
It's important to me that others like me
Question 8 of 29
I find it hard to make a decision unless I know what other people think
Question 9 of 29
My relationships with others are generally superficial
Question 10 of 29
Sometimes I think I am no good at all
Question 11 of 29
I find it hard to trust other people
Question 12 of 29
I find it difficult to depend on others
Question 13 of 29
I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like
Question 14 of 29
I find it relatively easy to get close to other people
Question 15 of 29
I find it easy to trust others
Question 16 of 29
I feel comfortable depending on other people
Question 17 of 29
I worry that others won't care about me as much as I care about them
Question 18 of 29
I worry about people getting too close
Question 19 of 29
I worry that I won't measure up to other people
Question 20 of 29
I have mixed feelings about being close to others
Question 21 of 29
I wonder why people would want to be involved with me
Question 22 of 29
I worry a lot about my relationships
Question 23 of 29
I wonder how I would cope without someone to love me
Question 24 of 29
I feel confident about relating to others
Question 25 of 29
I often feel left out or alone
Question 26 of 29
I often worry that I do not really fit with other people
Question 27 of 29
Other people have their own problems, so I don't bother them with mine
Question 28 of 29
If something is bothering me, others are generally aware and concerned
Question 29 of 29
I am confident that other people will like and respect me

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